I finally finished Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking. It was an interesting book and confirmed a lot of things that, subconsciously, I already knew (without thinking!).
“Insight is not a lightbulb that goes off inside our heads.
It is a flickering candle that can easily be snuffed out.”
We often do ourselves more harm than good by overthinking things and end up confusing the issue. The real trick is learning to acknowledge those flickering candles and when to follow your gut because, as this book illustrated time and again, it rarely leads you in the wrong direction.
How many times have you done something that you initally thought you shouldn’t? But you talked yourself, or allowed yourself to be talked, into it because all logical thought indicated there was no reason not to. And you end up wondering why you were ever hesitant to begin with.
I’ve done it throughout my life. Quite a few times. And every time, afterwards, I berated myself for not listening to my own intuitions. It would’ve saved me, and often times others, a lot of agony and unneeded stress…
I knew, before I ever met Dr H, that I would not be attracted to him. I knew he wasn’t my “type.” I knew after spending 5 minutes with him that I didn’t like him like that. And never would. Alcohol and sex can’t change that. I knew there was more to the story with Flirt. I knew that camera stuff was odd.
I knew, almost every time that Asshole, aka Door #3, told me he was “working late,” or had some elaborate story about something…even a seemingly innocent story. I KNEW he was cheating. But I made myself wait until I had proof. Screw proof! I KNEW! That should’ve been enough.
I won’t bore you with more examples. The point is…Sometimes, you just know things. Don’t ignore that or second-guess it or try to explain it. It happens. And it’s a good thing.
Comments from the old blog:
gak – Jul 20, 06: Daisy!!!! i totally know what you mean. have you taken the myers-briggs- type deal at http://similarminds.com/jung.html
please please tell me that you have a very high “N” because i do too… and it couldn’t reinforce the meaning of this post any more strongly.
amen sistah– listen to your intuition.
Daisy- Jul 30, 06: We had to do the Myers-Briggs thing at work a few years back. I’ll have to go dig and find my result booklet, but I’m pretty sure I was INTJ.