And like love, shit, or fuck, you shouldn’t say it unless you really mean it!
For the past several months, people have been saying, in reference to our charity game coming up next week, to me, “If you need any help, let me know,” or “I’d be happy to help.”
So, realizing that, with work the way it has been, I can’t do it all by myself, what did I do? I asked for help. I told people what they could do to help. We came up with ideas to bring in more money and various people volunteered to do various things in relation to that. So meanwhile, I worked on other things that needed to be done for both the event and my job.
Apparently, when people say such things, what they really mean is, “Let me know if there is anything I can do to help. And if it is something I want to do, I will. Otherwise, I’ll just keep asking you to let me know if you need any help.”
What the fuck good does it do to have planning meetings and the like if none of the things talked about ever get done? If you can’t do it, or have no plans to, DON’T SAY YOU WILL!
This is why I have a problem delegating, both in my personal and professional life. It’s far easier to know ahead of time that I need to do something and work it into my schedule than to think someone else is taking care of it, only to find out at the last minute that I’m still going to have to do it!
I’m overly bitchy about this right now because, to top things off, while I was sitting in front of the computer until 3am last night working on stuff for the game, everyone else was at a happy hour that I was not even made unaware of. I guess they knew I would be busy. Ugh.
Sometimes I am tempted to just say screw it and let the whole thing go to shit. But I’m really proud of this event and want it to continue to be successful. So I suck it up and do what needs to be done…At the expense of my personal life, my job, and my sanity.
Thankfully some relief is on the way. Mexigoalie offered to come stay the night and help me with the programs. We’ve got just over 36 hours to come up with bios and funny ads and such and I’m running out of things to pull out of my ass. Two others have offered to come over for a little while tomorrow afternoon as well, so I’m grateful for that.